“The key to both attracting and holding attention is to radiate mystery. And no one is naturally mysterious. Mystery is something you have to work at, a ploy on your part.”
The Art of Seduction, Send Mixed Signals
By nature, most people are painfully obvious.
Their character is overt, lacking depth and contrary motion, leaving little to the imagination.
In the presence of such opaque individuals, we may be momentarily attracted to them, but with nothing to explore or uncover beyond the surface, this attraction soon wears off.
The reality is that we humans are secretly oppressed by the rationality in our lives, where everything is meant to mean something and fit into neatly defined categories or explanations.
This is why we quickly grow bored of people who do not radiate mystery—they are a reflection of our daily lives, and we crave something that is quite the opposite in order to break this sense of familiarity and repetitiveness.
Seduction, through its intense ambiguity, ought to serve as relief from this dynamic of incessant predictability.
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