“Talk to a man about himself and he will listen for hours.”

The Art of Seduction, The Charmer

We humans are naturally more interested in ourselves than others.

We have a vested interest in our own lives, experiences, and achievements.

As such, when we engage someone in conversation about themselves, we allow them to delve into their personal narrative, and this is inherently stimulating and engaging.

Sharing stories about ourselves in this way allows us to feel validated and acknowledged.

A genuine listener who shows interest in our thoughts and experiences makes us feel seen and appreciated, boosting our self-esteem, soothing our egos, and indulging our vanity.

When our natural self-interest is engaged so intensely, the person feeding our latent narcissism captures our attention in a profound way.

Soon enough, blinded by our egotistical impulses, our powers of reason start to lower, our defences drop, and we become very easy to influence and seduce.

This notion perfectly encapsulates the essence of The Charmer.